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From a listmate
Here is a message from our coach, giving more accurate details and info regarding the coverage of the special needs hockey teams during Hockey Day in Canada on Saturday. Many of our listmates have children playing on these teams.
Nancy
The National will be covering a story about the Special Needs Hockey League in Southern Ontario, featuring the Cambridge team, with a game played with Newmarket Nighthawks as part of the coverage - many listies have children on these teams. It is schedule to air this Friday night, February 8th.
Also, Hockey Day in Canada will be all day coverage on Saturday Feb 9th, at some point during the day a longer segment about Special Needs Hockey will be played, however, not sure on what time it is scheduled for.
I know some of you are anxious to know the following…….sources tell him that there will be something on the National either tonight or tomorrow night and then on Hockey Day in Canada which is this Saturday, sometime around 1:00pm to 1:15 pm on CBC there will be a feature.
The National broadcast regarding special needs hockey, featuring the Cambridge Ontario Ice Hounds.
Hi all,
If you missed the broadcast last night, here's the link to the National's website where you can watch a rebroadcast. The story is around the 44 minute mark, so you can scroll forward to see it.
http://www.cbc.ca/national/latestbroadcast.html
SEE ATTACHED PRESS RELEASE
And the facebook link
http://www.facebook.com/group.php/editgroup.php?members&gid=8363327485
Man walks to Ottawa
UPDATE from Pat LaLonde
Just got an update. Mr. Marinoiu left Elgin this morning, and is nearing his destination for this evening, Smith Falls. He was interviewed by the Smith Falls this Week!!!!!!
I want to send out a huge THANK YOU to the local media!!! You have done an amazing job letting the public know about Stefan's Walk. Mr. Marinoiu's family is very grateful for all of your support. What an incredible individual Stefan is to be walking from Toronto to Ottawa to raise awareness for Autism. As a parent, I can certainly understand his frustration!!!!!!
Thank you to the Marinoiu family and in particular Stefan Marinoiu for enduring the cold, wind, snow and rain to help some of the most vulnerable individuals in our society.
Mr. Marinoiu's daughter Lia has started a Facebook Group for her father's walk. I believe the groups title is My Father is Walking to Ottawa for Autism. There were approx. 400 members yesterday and it is nearing 800 today!!!! Well done Lia....... Here's wishing your dad a safe journey!!!!!!
Cheers,
Pat La Londe
Laura from Kerry’s Place met him and Pat sends this update:
Hi All,
Here are some pictures of Mr. Marinoiu outside of Kingston on Hwy 15. Laura from Kerry's Place here in Kingston drove out to meet Mr. Marinoiu. He was able to use her cell phone to call his family. I have contacted the OPP in the Area. They are going to keep an eye on Mr. Marinoiu to ensure his safety. Apparently he will be spending the evening in Elgin and then continue his trek to Ottawa.....
Wow, I am so very proud to be part of the Autism Community. The community has really pulled together to help support this incredible individual. I am happy to report that this story was the lead on the 3pm radio news cast here in Kingston. It was also reported on by another radio station. I am hopeful the local newspapers will put something in as well as the local tv station.....
Thats all the info. I have for now!!! Well done Stefan!!! The Autism Community is extremely proud of you and thankful to you for your incredible effort to bring attention to Autism.
Cheers,
Pat La Londe
Father makes trek to shed light on autism
http://www.intelligencer.ca/ArticleDisplay.aspx?e=889682
Posted By Sean Tomlinson
Posted 2 days ago
You can't really blame Stefan Marinoiu for wanting a shortcut to Ottawa, especially since he is walking there from Toronto.
When the Ontario Provincial Police picked him up near Oshawa he found out Highway 401 was the wrong choice.
"It's illegal to walk on the 401. I didn't know that," he said. "I thought it would be a better, straight, shorter way."
Marinoiu, 49, is making the 452-kilometre walk from Toronto to Ottawa to raise public awareness of autism.
His passion for autism is evident when he speaks and the sandwich board sign he wears which reads 'autism: time for a national solution' only reinforces that.
Marinoiu has a 15-year-old son who was diagnosed with autism when he was a child.
Marinoiu and his wife have struggled to provide proper support while their son's condition has deteriorated with age. He has now become aggressive, a common symptom in autistic children, and Marinoiu is afraid the Children's Aid Society may take him away, fearing he could hurt their younger six-year-old child.
"His autism has progressed to the point that communication is a struggle," Marinoiu said. "We just do not have the money to provide proper care for him."
Once in Ottawa, Marinoiu plans on going straight to Parliament Hill to speak with the federal government about increasing funding to support families like his who are dealing with autism. He also wants to urge the government to fund more research into autism.
"There are three types of governments: Governments that make things happen, governments that see things happen and the kind that asks what happened," he said. "We need to be the government that makes things happen."
Marinoiu, who has a plate in his left foot after breaking it two years ago, began his walk last Thursday morning from his home in Toronto. By Monday night he had walked the 171 kilometres to Trenton.
http://www.napaneeguide.com/ArticleDisplay.aspx?e=892780
Autism activist treks through Napanee
Posted By Micah Luxen
Posted 1 day ago
With a bright pink sign for autism, one man, Stefan Marinoiu, walks alone down the highway, making his way from Toronto to Ottawa in the cold.
He’s already walked six days at three kilometres an hour with an injured foot, but Marinoiu is going all the way to Ottawa for his 15-year-old, who has autism. The determined father says autistic children need much more support from the government.
“[The government] is telling me they have no resources for us but as autistic children get older, life gets more difficult, so we need more help, and I’m going to the federal government to ask them for it,” said Marinoiu, as he walked though Napanee on Wednesday afternoon.
He went on to say that the United States government offers families with autistic children substantial support, something he hopes the Canadian government will adopt.
“I’m trying to do something for all those children in Canada who have autism, because they deserve the same happiness as the other children,” said Marinoiu of the illness that affects brain development in one in 1,000 children.
It’s been a hard walk for Marinoiu who’s kept on course, even during two blizzards.
“The snowstorm was really bad, but I kept walking, with the exception of a 10 minute drive by the OPP who said, ‘wow, you’re going to freeze to death.’
“And I’m very slow because I never did this before.”
The OPP picked up the walker on the 401, where it is illegal to walk – he’s now using Highway 2.
Marinoiu hoped to reach Kingston by Wednesday nightfall.
“I’m not a protester--I’m going to Ottawa in friendliness. I just want to find a solution for autism.”
Father makes trek to shed light on autism
Belleville Intelligencer - Belleville,Ontario,Canada
You can't really blame Stefan Marinoiu for wanting a shortcut to Ottawa , especially since he is walking there from Toronto .
When the Ontario Provincial Police picked him up near Oshawa he found out Highway 401 was the wrong choice.
"It's illegal to walk on the 401. I didn't know that," he said. "I thought it would be a better, straight, shorter way."
Marinoiu, 49, is making the 452-kilometre walk from Toronto to Ottawa to raise public awareness of autism.
His passion for autism is evident when he speaks and the sandwich board sign he wears which reads 'autism: time for a national solution' only reinforces that.
Marinoiu has a 15-year-old son who was diagnosed with autism when he was a child.
Marinoiu and his wife have struggled to provide proper support while their son's condition has deteriorated with age. He has now become aggressive, a common symptom in autistic children, and Marinoiu is afraid the Children's Aid Society may take him away, fearing he could hurt their younger six-year-old child.
"His autism has progressed to the point that communication is a struggle," Marinoiu said. "We just do not have the money to provide proper care for him."
Once in Ottawa , Marinoiu plans on going straight to Parliament Hill to speak with the federal government about increasing funding to support families like his who are dealing with autism. He also wants to urge the government to fund more research into autism.
"There are three types of governments: Governments that make things happen, governments that see things happen and the kind that asks what happened," he said. "We need to be the government that makes things happen."
Marinoiu, who has a plate in his left foot after breaking it two years ago, began his walk last Thursday morning from his home in Toronto . By Monday night he had walked the 171 kilometres to Trenton .
He said it has been frigid at times, especially through the blowing snow, freezing rain and high winds of Friday's snowstorm. But he just kept walking.
"I'm making something happen," he said. "If it takes me 10 days that's nothing compared to a life of despair."
He has had some help along the way. On Friday night, a Newtonville couple invited him into their home, made him coffee and a hot meal, washed his clothes and gave him a bed for the night.
At 3 a.m. Sunday Marinoiu found himself at the door of the Pentecostal Church in Cobourg. The church not only welcomed Marinoiu but gave him bedding and made him a part of their Sunday morning service.
Although he has accepted several small donations along the way from supporters, he insists he is not doing this for money.
He said he was given the "run around" after writing letters to the federal government and grew frustrated, so he decided this was the only way to promote awareness of autism.
People have referred to him as a protester, but Marinoiu does not see himself that way.
"I'm a friend. I'm not a revolutionist, I'm just a simple man trying to get a point across."
Mr. Marinoiu's daughter, Lia, has set up a facebook page to promote her father's journey. She wants to try and find out from people around Ontario where her father is now.
The link for the Facebook group is:
http://hs.facebook.com/group.php\?gid=8363327485
Mr. Marinoiu is doing this for all Canadians that are struggling to support their loved ones with a diagnoses of Autism Spectrum Disorder. He is right we do need our governments to do more. Let this motivate all of us to work harder.
Laurie Mawlam
Executive Director
Autism Canada Foundation
Monday February 11th LARRY KING LIVE: CNN CHANNEL 9PM
The heartbreak ...and hope of autism. Jason "J-Mac" McElwain inspired the world with his incredible shot-making at a high school basketball game. Larry talks to the teen and others about the disorder. Holly Robinson Peete, Doug Flutie and Toni Braxton join the discussion to bust myths and present breakthroughs. It's an uplifting hour with those who know!
http://www.thestar.com/News/Canada/article/293119
good article about flying with someone that has a disability
From a listmate
No Link Between Autism and Vaccines?
Readers Aren't Convinced
By Carrie Stetler.
tinyurl.com/2ezhuq
Many (NJ Star-Ledger) readers still believe there's a link between autism and vaccines, no matter what the American Academy of Pediatrics says.
The Academy recently pressured ABC to pull an epside of it's courtroom drama "Eli Stone" which centered around a suit against a pharmaceutical company that makes vaccines. But ABC refused.
On Sunday in the Star-Ledger PG section, we asked readers if the show should have been broadcast. They unanimously backed ABC. And they were united in their belief that studies disputing a relationship between autism and vaccines weren't conclusive. We'll publish more responses in the Feb. 24 issue of PG.
"I absolutely believe there is a connection between vaccinations and many other illnesses. The FDA and the pharmaceutical companies are all corrupt. We need more shows showing how corrupt the FDA and pharmaceutical companies are." Lonny Neely
"'Eli so eloquently compared the vaccine issue to the tobbacco industry. How many people for how many years swore that tobacco products were harmless? It took over thirty years from the first lawsuit to the first financial settlement...Why is the AAP so upset about this episode if they really do believe there is absolutely, undeniably no connection between vaccines and autism?" LaRonda Gumm
"I think that as with any fictional story that might air, why the caution (over) this one? The AAP group just will do anything to get the vaccine safety group to go away. People just do not want to acknowledge that there may be safety issues with the preservatives in vaccines. Most parents worry around vaccine time with their new infant. Why? There is something in the back of their heads that tells them they should be worried." Rita O'Grady
"More and more children have serious allergies and asthma. No wonder, when the vaccines they are injected with as newborns are full of allergens. Don't you think it makes sense to put a moratorium if not roll back on vaccine mandates and see if children get healthier, even if they have a bout of chickenpox?" Gabriella Landman
From a listmate
Don't Rule Out Mercury As A Factor In Autism
Column in today's Capital Times.
www.madison.com/tct/opinion/letters/271425
Dear Editor: Amazing what a silly television show can do to get the attention of the mainstream medical community.
Despite letters bordering on hysteria from the American Academy of Pediatrics, the American Medical Association and the March of Dimes, ABC went ahead with the show "Eli Stone." The first episode was about a case where the jury awarded a family compensation for a vaccine ingredient (thimerosal, 50 percent organic mercury) linked to their child's autism.
Because of this show we have now seen over 1,000 headlines that say "Once and for all, mercury does not cause autism." Who says it does? The studies I read are saying that mercury is a neurotoxin and causes/exacerbates neuroinflammatory disease. There are now 11 published papers that define the underlying medical condition of autism as neuroinflammatory disease.
The most in-depth paper, "Neuroglial activation and neuroinflammation in the brain of patients with autism," was done at Johns Hopkins University. It was done by analyzing brain tissue of deceased autistic patients.
One might think the most logical question would be: What is causing the neuroinflammation? If you go to the most popular health search engine and type in "mercury and inflammation," you will get 156 published papers to review. Many of these papers explain the role of mercury and activation of microglial cells in the brain. In a paper published in the Journal of Neuroinflamation, "Microglia and neuroinflamation: a pathological perspective," the authors define activation of microglial cells as being synonymous with neuroinflammatory disease.
We now know that primates exposed to ethyl mercury via vaccines retain twice as much inorganic mercury in their brains as primates exposed to equal doses of methyl mercury. These primates were exposed to mercury levels at a rate equal to what U.S. children received via standard childhood vaccines in 1991-2003.
Why has research in this area been stopped? Maybe someone from the National Institutes of Health or the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention can answer this question. They seem to have billions to waste on chasing that elusive, spontaneous, mutating autism gene.
- Michael Wagnitz
Michael Wagnitz is a Madison resident with over 25 years of experience evaluating material for mercury and other heavy metals.
From a listmate
Time For Honest Assessment of
MMR Vaccine's Risks
tinyurl.com/3cdxjs
Another weak scientific research paper is paraded as definitive proof that no link exists between the controversial MMR vaccine, bowel disease and autism (The Scottsman, 5 February).
Accompanied by a barrage of well-orchestrated government propaganda this "new" research attempts to draw a line under what must be the longest-running public health scandal ever.
This latest paper is nothing but another layer of deceit in a litany of dissimulation. The wrong children have been tested, the wrong tests carried out, the wrong hypothesis explored and the wrong conclusion reached.
In contrast, parents should note that in 2006 an American medical scientific team (led by Stephen Walker MD, Wake Forest University School of Medicine) clinically examined 275 regressive autistic children with bowel disease (the target group). Of the 82 children tested, 70 proved positive for measles virus in the gut and/or gastro-intestinal tract. All were vaccine strain and none wild virus measles. I quote: "This research proves that in the gastro-intestinal tract of a number of children who have been diagnosed with regressive autism there is evidence of measles virus."
The reaction of public-health supremos in the UK to this confirmation of earlier-published scientific evidence, parental testimony and anecdotal reports from health workers regarding adverse reactions to MMR was the same old, same old: silence, denial, cover-up.
It is time for someone with integrity and compassion in politics or public health to take action to bring this shameful episode to an end.
- Bill Welsh President, Autism Treatment Trust Stafford Street Edinburgh
WORKSHOP from a listmate
A FA SE at school
Presents
Advocating For Appropriate Special Education
Saturday, May 3, 2008
10:30 a.m. – 4:30 p.m.
This full-day workshop is designed to empower you by providing current special education
information, strategies, and skills that will enable you to advocate for appropriate special education
programs and services in a way that is both assertive and collaborative
Audience: Parents, Students, Teachers, Educational Assistants, and Community Organizations
Lindsay Moir who is retired from the Ministry of Education is considered to be an expert in special
education issues. He will present an interactive, discussion-based workshop on Current Issues in
Special Education.
Karen Robinson the owner of AFASE at School will present Special Education Advocacy:
Everything you Should Know. Topics include: The Rules of Advocacy, The Special Education
Program, Needs Statements, IPRC's and the Appeal Process, The good IEP with Specific Goals,
Measurable Expectations and ABA methods.
Each presentation will allow time for Q & A
Coffee and pastries, and a light lunch will be provided
Peel Regional Police
Clarkson Community Station
Community Meeting Room
2057 Royal Windsor Dr.
Mississauga, Ontario N5X 1B6
N/W corner of Southdown and Lakeshore/Royal Windsor
Short walk from Clarkson GO Train Station
SPACE IS LIMITED - REGISTER EARLY TO RESERVE YOUR SPOT
*Early bird rate: $80.00
*At the door: $100.00
To register use the registration form using this link
http://www.afase.com/Workshop_Registration.html
or e-mail: karen.robinson@afase.com
or phone: 905-427-7524
*Fee includes refreshments and handouts for each presentation
TUTORWIZ’S --- MARCH BREAK COMPUTER CAMP
Tutorwiz Education Centre is holding a Computer Day Camp March 10 through March 14 for children 7 to 14 years of age. Its runs from 9:00 AM to 4:00 PM daily.
Campers will learn to effectively use many educational computer programs such as Dragon Naturally Speaking and Inspiration/Smart Ideas, in addition to MS Word and POWERPOINT. They will also become familiar with the basics of designing a website.
Although the camp is very educational, the main objective is FUN, FUN, FUN!!!!!
Activities at the camp include:
• Designing and creating business cards
• An Internet scavenger hunt
• Designing and creating a fully animated POWERPOINT presentation including sound and videos
• Movies and creating a Movie Review
• Designing and creating a basic webpage
Spaces are limited so act now – application forms are available on our website
www.tutorwiz.com
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from a listmate
I was a visitor to Planet Earth
Source: Sunday Times, 03 FEB 08
By Wong Kim Hoh
In the last instalment of New Asian Heroes, an eight-part series on Asians who lead inspiring lives, meet Eric Chen, who suffers from autism and wants to raise awareness of the illness.
Touching Base: Eric Chen used to describe people as "alien life forms" as they are unpredictable and shunned contact with them, but not anymore. After he was diagnosed with autism, he became determined to integrate himself into society and raise awareness of autistic people.
From a listmate
From ABCNews.com - a story of a family where all six children are on the spectrum.....
http://cosmos.bcst.yahoo.com/up/player/popup/?rn=3906861&cl=6330719&ch=&src=news
The Mississauga News
http://www.mississauga.com/article/11017
Families sue to get autism therapists into school
2008-02-07 21:47:49.000
A Mississauga woman fighting to have her eight-year-old autistic son attend school, accompanied by his therapist, is taking her case to the Ontario Court of Appeal on Monday morning.
Lynn Shane, who last year pulled her son, Adam, out of Grade 2 at Ashgrove Public School in Clarkson because he was falling behind due to the rigours of balancing classes and 21 hours of weekly at-home therapy, has joined forces with five other Ontario families in hopes of launching a class-action lawsuit against Queen's Park and seven school boards. The Peel District School Board and Dufferin-Peel Catholic District School Board are among those named.
In essence, the parents want to be able to send their autistic children to school while also getting them the therapy they need. Because outside therapists aren't allowed in schools, though, Shane, and parents in the same situation, must choose between school or therapy.
"No one will give us a specific reason, and the only reason is that therapy cannot be done in school," said Shane, who more recently has been teaching her son at home and driving him to Burlington four times each week for therapy.
"These kids deserve the same opportunities as the rest of the kids who attend school in Canada."
Some 1,500 Ontario families find themselves in similar circumstances, and they could join the lawsuit if it moves forward.
Education Ministry spokesperson Patricia McNeil said there's no provincial policy that prohibits therapists in schools, but added it's the school boards that make such decisions.
"There are space issues with many schools," said McNeil. "They just don't have the area to enable the proper delivery of the therapy. Boards also have different policies regarding the use of their space by private service providers."
The Peel Board, under its special education operating procedures, forbids anyone or any agency from paying for in-class help for students.
It prohibits students from bringing private tutors to class, or autistic pupils bringing their therapists to school, said Brian Woodland, director of communications for the Peel Board.
"No matter what the role, the concerns are there because you have a child on a completely different program from anyone else, but you have a teacher employed to deliver that curriculum," said Woodland. "The operating procedure, because of the issues, is what serves the Board well."
Shane said Adam would need only to have a therapist by his side to walk him through the same work other students in class would be doing. His mother says he's a great learner.
"It makes me terribly sad that he's not given the opportunities," said Shane. "He's going to grow up and he's going to be a teenager, and he's going to miss out on everything."
David Baker, lawyer for the families, said an unfavourable ruling from the Appeal Court, which could derail the lawsuit, would be a huge disappointment for the parents.
"Most of them have mortgaged their houses, or sold their houses, and used up their RRSPs to pay for education to go with the therapy," said Baker.
One of the families, however, has made inroads. The Martinis' two autistic children, Noah and Jonah, receive on-site therapy while attending their York region school.
"Nobody else has been permitted to do it, and nobody can explain why they've been permitted to do it," said Baker.
McNeil said parents have to make a choice.
"At the end of the day...parents have to look at their child's needs and decide what's going to assist their child the best. Not all schools can accommodate that type of one-on-one therapy," she said.
Ideally, for Shane, her four-year fight would end without lawyers and judges.
"(Ideally), the school calls me up and says bring him in and bring anything he needs," Shane said. "We just need someone to sit with him and say, 'this is the lesson the other students are doing; let's break it down,' so he can learn it. It is not a big deal."
There could be hope on the horizon, though, from Queen's Park. In the Liberal platform from the 2007 election, the party promised to, "provide $10 million to prepare schools to deliver IBI therapy on-site for the first time."
That's the same therapy Adam and other autistic children receive.
cmacbride@mississauga.net
12 Ways to Make a Difference for Your Autistic Grandchild
You are a grandparent! Nothing can compare with the boundless love that a grandparent feels for their grandchild. No longer limited by the need to juggle work, home, school and raising children into mature, self reliant adulthood, the gift of grandchildren is one of life’s greatest blessings. But life doesn’t always deliver it’s blessings in the package we expect. The diagnosis of autism is for many a jolt into a new world; one that many have not even heard of or at least have no knowledge. Autism is a mysterious and heart breaking neurological (occurring in the brain) disorder that occurs in 1 in 150 children. It shows itself most prominently in impairments in language, communication, behavior and social relationships. For parents, the diagnosis tears at our hearts and brings the future crashing down (at least for a time).
This is where grandparents come in. You have awaited the news of your grandchild for months, maybe years and now the gut wrenching truth is almost too painful. Your children are suffering. What could be worse?
I know you want to help because you are reading this. You want to find a way to ease the pain. Your adult children need you. You cannot cure the autism or somehow make it disappear, even though you would love to. But you play a role that is critical and you have the power to make life more manageable for your children and your grandchild or you can undermine their challenges and exacerbate an already fragile situation.
Autism cannot be cured. But, time will show that it is not a “death sentence.” Life will find a “new kind of normal” and life will take on new meaning. There are therapies, education programs, and dietary considerations that will make life much more controllable for a person with autism.
So, you want to play a positive role in the life of your grandchild with autism? Here are a few tips that will certainly get you started on the right track:
1) Support your children in their efforts to come to terms with and negotiate this challenging path. Listen, affirm and avoid offering quick judgments and /or solutions. What parents need most is to be supported and to feel affirmed that they are good parents and they will be able to cope; they are not alone.
2) Accept and love your grandchild for who they are now, not what you want them to be. This can be tall order when you are in public and a full-blown tantrum is underway! Remember, this is not a child that is misbehaving; he or she needs to tell you something and is not capable of it. Loving our children means interpreting their behaviour to find the message behind it.
3) Avoid judging or blaming anyone or anything. As humans we too often find ourselves searching for a reason or something on which we can lay blame. In the larger picture of your grandchild’s emotional, physical and intellectual growth, negative energy is simply wasted energy. Positive energy seeks to learn, to understand and to support what is. Autism is a neurological disorder. Parents cannot do anything or fail to do anything that would leave their child autistic. Suggesting otherwise is cruel and utterly wrong.
4) Support financially when possible. The education savings plan that you have begun may need to be used earlier than expected. Therapies, programs, resources and respite care are costly and yet they are the critical ingredients to making the lives of your children and their children with autism better. Listen to what your children are saying they need. Quietly reassure them that you will help in any way that you can.
5) Learn as much as possible about autism. There are many excellent resources on the market. The goal should be to increase understanding of the child’s communication, social and behavioral presentation NOT to find a cure. Information on how children with autism see the world and how they learn will do wonders for helping you to connect with your grandchild. One of my parent’s favourites is Autistic Thinking: This is the Title, by Peter Vermeulen.
6) Offer to spend time with the children or provide the financial means to have the parents have time on their own. Don’t wait to be asked. Your child’s marriage and mental health needs as much attention as does your grandchild. It is an investment for the whole family when you provide the regular opportunity for relief.
7) Gift certificates for movies, dinner, spa, and fitness clubs are a way to “force” a parent to take time for him or her self. Most parents will never quite get around to taking care of themselves. A homemade meal or a house cleaning can go a long way to easing stress. Take care of your child so they can care for your grandchild.
8) Spend time with the siblings of the child with autism. Or, provide care for the child with autism so that parents and typical children can reconnect! So often, life at home is centered on the child with special needs that siblings can get “lost in the shuffle.” Special days away or planned activities give siblings the relief that they need from a busy household. Our other children need to know that it is healthy to take a break from caring for a person that needs a lot from us.
9) Give your grandchild the opportunity to develop self esteem by teaching them how to do things for themselves rather than doing it for them. It is so tempting to do things for our special needs children. We can easily feel that “our babies” must deal with so much already that it seems cruel to say, “You can do it!” But be aware that being overly nurturing can sabotage a child’s opportunity to learn to do something and feel the sense of accomplishment and pride when they get it! No grandparent would want to chip away at a child’s self esteem. When you guide your grandchildren through each small step and encourage their attempts (even if they are off the mark) you are building their internal sense of self and that is a gift of a lifetime.
10) Communicate to the child with autism with short simple sentences. If you want your grandchild to do something it is best to state it specifically rather than ask a question. For example, instead of asking, “Do you want to rake the leaves with me?” it is more likely that you will get a positive response if you say, “Come rake the leaves with me. You can help me.” People with autism are often quite literal in their thinking and if we pose statements as questions, we may get a response that we did not intend. Avoid being loud, talking quickly and giving multiple steps. Your grandchild will most likely not be able to process all of your verbal instructions and they may ignore you or become very agitated.
11) Pictures, lists and diagrams are far more meaningful to most people with autism than words are. If your grandchild is upset or seems to lack understanding of something it is useful to draw a picture/diagram, list the steps that will happen or use a picture schedule. For example, a list might say: 1) Play at park. 2) Snack. 3) Brush teeth. 4) Bedtime. OR even more specific: 1) Eat snack. 2) Brush teeth. 3) Read story. 4) Sleep.
12) Respect the expectations and limits that parents set up. Raising a child with autism demands a structure and routine that is essential for the child’s peace of mind. Follow dietary restrictions, bedtimes, routines (no matter how odd they seem) and communication guidelines that the parents set. People with autism may have trouble coping with changes in routine, food, sleeping arrangements, toileting, etc when they are in your home. This is not because they are behaving poorly. This IS NOT a discipline (or lack thereof) issue. It is an autism issue and it needs to be treated as such.
Trust that you can make a deep and life changing impact on your grandchild by being the support that his/her parents need. As grandparents you may feel helpless and completely at a loss as to how to help. In reality, you do have the potential to make a huge difference whether you are physically near your children or not. Support, affirmation and love are what will get your child’s family through the challenge of raising a child with autism.
Jennifer Krumins is a full time teacher in Ontario, Canada with 18 years of experience in special education and the regular classroom. A mother of three (one of which has autism) I am currently teaching severely challenged teen boys with autism. Author of Been There. Done That. Finally Getting it Right. A Guide to Educational Planning for Students with Autism: Lessons from a Mother and Teacher
Feel free to visit my website at http://www.autismaspirations.com or email me at krumins@autismaspirations.com
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Autism Cruise Group Leader - Los Angeles, March 2008
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Facts & Arguments: THE ESSAY
Four words you can't teach
It would be so easy for my autistic son to learn to say, 'I love you, too.' But I resist programming him
TRACEY MCGILLIVRAY
submissions: facts@globeandmail.com
February 5, 2008
My son struggles with words, like most children with autism. Show him a picture and he understands. Give him numbers to add or subtract and he's a whiz. But try to explain an abstract concept and he is lost.
He doesn't get the nuances of social behaviour, so every interaction needs a rule. Over time, we teach him how to act in a variety of situations using lots of visuals and practice, practice, practice.
First we learn, "If someone says hello, then you say hello, too."
"Hello, too," he responds to people who greet him. We refine the lesson.
We visit the playground and practice saying, "My name is Thomas. Would you like to play with me?" After a while, he begins to introduce himself to everyone we encounter, rolling down his window at stoplights and calling out to the surprised occupants of the car next to us: "Hello, my name is Thomas and this is my sister, Emily."
His sister groans in exasperation. "My brother is ruining my life!"
That, I assure her, is what little brothers are for.
Every night as I tuck him in, I whisper, "Goodnight, Thomas, I love you so much."
I close his door partway. "Just to there, mommy. Okay, stop." I wonder if he will ever answer in kind.
It would be so easy to teach him to say it. "I love you, too."
But I've resisted. I can't bring myself to make this just another scenario. Some part of me worries that if I program my son to say he loves me, it will mean a little less. For better or for worse, I want him to stumble through the process of learning what love is all about for himself. The way the rest of us do.
Buckling him into his car seat one day, I forget one of Thomas's basic rules (he came with a set of his own, including, "Hugs only. No kisses."). I kiss him on the head and whisper, "I love you."
"Ouch!" he says, rubbing the spot furiously. "Mommy, you know I don't like kisses."
Then a dreamy look comes into his eyes. "I love Samana," he whispers. I hide a delighted smile. How normal is that? A seven-year-old with a crush on his big sister's best friend.
We share an elevator ride with another mother and her son. Thomas exclaims over the boy's handheld game. The boy shows Thomas through a car race, demonstrating the lifelike roar of the engines. Watching their heads bent over the toy, I think, "He's relating. They're having fun together, even if it's just for a few
minutes."
The episode seems to have an effect on Thomas, too. As we wave goodbye to the boy and his mom, Thomas calls after them, "I love you. And I love your game." Which leads to a chat about what you should and should not say to people you've just met in an elevator.
One night at bedtime, I say, "Love you so."
"You forgot 'much,' " he
admonishes.
Every day after school, he creates pages and pages of intricate, colourful artwork.
"Whatcha drawin,' Thomas?" his sister asks one day.
He holds up his latest masterpiece, filled with characters from Thomas the Tank Engine, The Aristocats and Scooby-Doo. Each figure wears a Superman cape. "This is my real family," he tells her. She is outraged.
"You can't take it personally," I try to explain. Inside, I empathize. We are a messy work in progress, this family, with plenty more to colour in.
Another day, another 20 pieces of art. "Whatcha drawin,' Thomas?" I ask.
It's a picture of Superman, or rather SuperThomas. His chest is emblazoned with a bold ST. A streak of blue and red trailing behind him implies he is flying. In the background is the outline of a city, skyscrapers with rows and rows of lit-up windows. SuperThomas is carrying someone.
"Who's this?" I ask, pointing to a stick figure with a skirt, long hair and a wide smile.
He glances over. "That's you."
"Wow." (I have short hair and I'm not sure I've worn a skirt since my children were born.) "And what are we
doing?"
"I'm saving you," he says, his tone implying, "of course."
As I look at this picture, a long-forgotten hymn from my childhood begins playing in my head: "Love lifted me, love lifted me. When nothing else could help, love lifted me."
We are often told by his therapists to "stop talking and show" Thomas what we want him to learn. Now, whether he meant to or not, he has shown me something. As SuperThomas carries mommy to safety, I see. I see.
"I love you, too," I say as I bend toward him.
"Ouch! Mommy, you know I don't like kisses!"
Tracey McGillivray lives
in Toronto .
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